Male property vs. slave

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A slave is person who is the property of and wholly subject to another person.  Hence, slavery is one application of owning property, whereas property is what he or she is. It’s a case of function (slave etc)  vs. state (property).

It’s like a car you own (property) that you drive (function) or use for display (function) or use for spare parts (function).  Depending on how you use the car it will either stay in its current form or be transformed into something else, maybe become part of many other cars and machines. But it is essentially property available for those with the money to buy it and use it in some way or other.

Property, therefore, is the catch-all term for all things available to be owned by free People. When a submissive person becomes property, they give up the ability to fully own in order to become owned themselves by the simple logic that if Z owns Y, and Y owns X, then Z owns both Y and X.

I’m not saying slave is the wrong term, it’s just not the only term that’s relevant, yet there is considerable emphasis on it to the point where property and ownership are lost. Which is a shame seeing that property is, after all, the route by which a free person becomes fully owned and enslaved.

Without an emphasis on property and ownership, slave is a more vague term. Hence, there is a difference between saying:

“You obey Me because you’re my slave”

and

“You obey Me because I own you”.

It’s important to clarify what each term means to You because there are those interested in slavery, perhaps as a fetish, who are not interested in ownership, and there are those interested in ownership, but less interested in the fetish surrounding BDSM slavery.

Owned property can have many uses: it can be a dog, a sextoy, a servant, a houseboy, cleaner, personal assistant, personal trainer or any combination of many functions. In some of these function the property is a slave, in others it is not. In my own intro on this blog i describe a range of functions i can perform for an Owner. When we talk about ownership what each function has in common is that there is an element of being property. The logical order is:

Male property =>  owned by a Man or Men =>  property is used as a slave, dog, toy, tool, , by that Man or those Men.

Another way to think about it is that in Male or Female or Human property we are emphasising in the first part the dominant Male or Female or Human Owner and then we mention His/Her property. Whereas in slave property or just slavewe’re describing one function of the property and there is no mention of any Owner or Master/Mistress. Which one would You rather be or own?

As You progress through the Evolution of Male property series, i hope i can show there’s a different tempo and nuance between property and slave, but more importantly as I’ll explain in a later chapter, there is more apartheid/separateness between Master and slave than there need be between Owner and property, and this can lead to the two sprouting off in different directions guided by different, even conflicting, philosophies.

What this series and blog is not designed to do is preach that what i state is the only correct understanding. There are many interpretations, understandings, and, of course, preferences. This is one version and one vision.  i hope You take the time to engage with the issues i raise and feel free (if You’re an Owner that should come easily) to express how You think and feel as You peruse from chapter to chapter.

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The Straight Master

…and His gay slave.

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You might think there’s no such thing. You might think if there is such a thing there’s no sex involved. You’d be wrong on both accounts.  Sure there are straight Masters & Owners who don’t want anything sexual with an inferior male, but what I’m about to describe are 3 straight Dominant Men/Masters I served over a lengthy period of time where the straight Man had a girlfriend and went back to her each time, with no threat to their relationship, or He went out weekends shagging women or wanting to but failing to pull, or the Master was married.

Often it was because of their respect for women that this need for a male servant/slave arose or because it was simply better than masturbation as I’ll explain.To date I’ve served 5 straight Dominant Men in total and I’ll update with details about the last two if I have time.

I used to think like a lot of people that gay was defined by the acts of gay sex, but that’s not always the historical understanding. Most Roman Masters who would often fuck both their male and female slaves were for all intents and purposes straight. Most prison sex/rape is conducted by those who would define themselves as  straight on the outside.

For some it seems, there is some disconnect or even dissonance between sexual acts and sexual thoughts/feelings. Some men are able to receive full oral sex and even perform anal sex with another human being regardless of the gender of that person. They’re not bisexual because they only form feelings for one gender, not both – the men servicing them are just performing a sex act on par with their own hand performing masturbation or a sex toy.  We don’t call wankers “handists”, we don’t call sex toy users “fleshlighters”.  We accept that as it is just a tool and there are no romantic feelings for the actual toy that it’s not on par with sexual attraction.

I’ve found several straight Men who can use gay guys like a sex toy or an alternative to masturbation. Perhaps they’re “gayists” – straight guys who use gay guys, like that Yahoo chat room in the 90s called: StraightGuysWhoDontMindGayGuysSuckingThemOff, remember that one? 😀

What I’ve found is that with these straight Men, they have only a specific sexual act or set of sexual acts that they’ll allow another male to perform for them. They’ll go so far and no further. It follows that a lot of these straight Men need to control the situation possibly so that it doesn’t go too far into things He doesn’t like or want, a bit like a wanker who stops before his hand starts to fist him :p

From my subservient submissive perspective what is so great about such straight Men is that they’re able to use a male slave or servant purely for the act, their own pleasure, their self-gratification, the power trip, the degradation and humiliation, but without most of the emotional baggage that builds up between an man and a woman or two gay men. They are just “friends with benefits”, and with all the negative aspects of all the baggage that builds up in conventional relationships, this kind of sex can be refreshing.

The Str8 Teen Turned Master

Many years ago I met this teenager at work a couple of months before he turned 18.  I was 22. He always wanted a girlfriend but being so young and short and skinny women didn’t exactly fight for his attention.  He and I became best friends, something about Him not yet being 18 and going into the big wide world brought out the sub in me where I wanted to take care of him.  We spent every weekend together drinking, smoking, high while he played computer games (I’ve never been into computer games but I liked making sure he always had a beer and anything he wanted food wise while he barely looked up from the screen).

One stoned night we agreed that if someone broke in intent on raping us that it would be easier if I, as the gay guy, would offer myself in the hope that he might be saved (we were stoned!).   As the weeks dragged on we talked more and more about the idea of a gay guy being a substitute for a girlfriend on those nights and weekends where the straight guy didn’t pull. After all, what difference did it make whether it was a guy or a blowup doll or a fleshlight performing the service?

Things didn’t start off with cock sucking straight away as He felt that was too close for comfort, but I started sleeping in his bed with him, and each Saturday morning as he woke up I would rim him and he would then start masturbating. At first he would go to the bathroom to cum as he felt it was too like “gay sex” for a hetero like him to cum with me in his bed.  Eventually though I said that as he liked being rimmed I could do it more often and if he wanted he could tie me to the bed and just sit on my face so he was in full control at all times.  He liked this idea and after trying it I became His “rimming buddy”, each Friday and Saturday night  he would spend over an hour sitting on my face masturbating lightly. He would spit beer into my mouth if I got thirsty and sit back down on my face again. He would cum on my chest.

By this point he was now 18 and still really wanting a girlfriend. Talking more about the kind of women he likes, he said he liked the more traditional type where he was the man and the one in charge. This was music  to my ears as all the rimming service I’d given him over a period of weeks while tied to his bed had very much instilled in me that he should be in the one in charge in all matters.  I wanted to do more for him, provide more services than just rimming so one Saturday morning I noticed he was rock hard so I pulled down his boxers and went down on him. It came to him as a shock but he made no effort to stop me. He came quite quickly, having small balls the pressure was enormous and it went straight down my throat.  That was it, I was now in full subservient mode, the feeling of his cum hitting the back of my throat like a tidal wave and the taste and smell of his cum flicked a switch in my brain.

From then on after masturbating while being rimmed, he would cum in my mouth but not fully put his dick in my mouth.  For a few more weeks I would only get to suck him off on a Saturday morning while he was waking up or still half-asleep.  Bit by bit though as he came in my mouth I would suck more and more on his dick until I was basically sucking him off for the last stage of his wank.

I told him I wanted to service him a lot more and not just sexually. I started massaging and orally servicing his feet, which he loved. I would tidy his room, serve him hand and foot and we’d even shower together where I provided him with my full (and very popular) shower service.

I did lots of other things for him that I won’t go into as I’m discreet and naturally very private, but I’ll say that by being best friends and now His oral servant meant he and I could go a lot further for a lot longer.

We had lunch together at work and he’d always go off to the toilet so I had the idea that if he went to the toilet on the top floor which was largely deserted I could suck him off and he could have a daily blowjob.  He liked the idea of not having to masturbate during the week so every lunch break I would suck him off or he would face fuck me at work. It meant not only was he no longer masturbating but I was swallowing all his cum every day, and several times at the weekend, while to him my mouth was a substitute vaginal cum dump.  Perfect.

He’s now married to a submissive Japanese woman so hopefully he’s getting much the same diligent service. If not, he knows where to find me 🙂

The Anal Sex Str8 Top

On Gaydar a straight guy messaged me as I had a bit of a sub/slave profile on there (nothing like the one on Recon 😉 He said he had a girlfriend. He wanted to do anal sex but didn’t feel comfortable approaching the subject with his girlfriend and needed an outlet. He thought as gay guys took it up the arse, they’d be a good solution.  This manifested itself in the straight guy needing total control over the situation which involved him dominating his “fuck bitch” or “faggot” even to the point of using force and degrading language.

He lived on my route home from work so it was nay bother going to see him whenever he wanted. His girlfriend worked evenings as a nurse I think so it was ideal. I would go round to his and he would simply fuck me in the arse and then I’d continue on my journey home. He started off just fucking me once, but then it became 3 or 4 times over 3 or 4 hours with me acting as his fluffer and foot stool in between fucks.

He became really intense about it all, expecting me there at a specific time and not a minute late. He got more and more rough and even violent and often taunted me that if I wanted him to stop fucking me or hitting me while he was in mid-flow it would be too late and he’d just carry on.  He said he could do anything he wanted to me as I was just a whore and a faggot. This all degraded and excited me.

I used to check my arse in between fucks but he got so turned on by dominating me and fucking and beating me at the same time that he could often just fuck twice in a row. Str8 guys need to realise that just because they’re fucking my arse like a pussy it’s still an exit and for the one and only time in my sexual life, there was a bit of discoloration on the condom and that was enough for him to snap out of his dominance and he kicked me out there and then lol.

A few months later while I was out drinking with loads of straight male friends, he saw me in the street, and being the intense slightly unstable character he is, he just came up to me and started trying to pull me back to his. It was all very rapey and my straight friends just thought that as he knew my name maybe this is what gay guys are like, but eventually they stepped in and saved me.  A part of me wishes they hadn’t of course because he most likely would have taken me back to his or down an dark alley and “raped” me, which after a lengthy drought at that point was better than talking about football and women with my straight mates (straight men can be so boring at times, can’t they? :p)

The Saudi Prince

So a few years pass as do a couple of gay Dom/sub long-term relationships and once single again I decide to get back into looking for a Master or Dominant Alpha-male to service.

A Master from Saudi Arabia contacts me on Recon to say that he’s in London looking for a servant/slave, a live-in position for six months, but must be willing for full servitude, obedience, and respect as a true subservient. I also had to accept that “Master is straight and married” and only looking for a “servant with benefits”.

I wasn’t allowed to know what those benefits were, but my accommodation would be a very nice 5 star apartment in Central London and as long as I provided Master with full service in all things I would be paid well.

I was moving out of my accommodation at that point and only working part-time so six months rent free servitude seemed to fit the bill.

So I turn up for the “interview” where I have to undress and put on my servant uniform, which was basically a very expensive suit that fitted quite well.  To the outside world I was an assistant and PA, but I wouldn’t see the outside world again for six months. I served Him in a number of sexual ways but also domestically, full shower, bathroom, valet service, you get the picture.

I moved into His apartment the following week and pretty quickly I learned that I was His assistant but only where sex and His personal needs were concerned.  i wasn’t allowed out of the apartment at all, he would lock me in when He went out.  When He was home I would spend my time serving or servicing Him.  He fucked me a lot. And then a month into service He started to bring His friends round to use me. These were mostly young guys His age with the oldest being about 40.  They were all Arabs (I like Arab men :p) but I’m not sure if they were all from Saudi Arabia, or where they were from.

They would also regularly come round individually during the day and use me sexually, and as I was the slave, I had to do everything they wanted and how they wanted it. If I didn’t they could get quite rough (more than they already were) and they would often threaten to tell my Master, which they said would result in very heavy beating.

They all loved getting their dicks sucked, constantly kept sticking them in my mouth, they loved being rimmed but they were especially heavily into anal sex, all total tops that could fuck for very lengthy periods of time. Having a slave seemed to be a major release for them where they could unleash their pent up wild side.

At weekends I would often have to serve several of them at the same time – an orgy of Masters if You like.  i liked it because they really treated me not just as a slave but as their property so they were often quite caring, too (as long as I always complied immediately).

There was also no direct talk of consent at all which I found really refreshing: the fact that I had agreed to move in and be enslaved and they had sensible limits of their own was consent enough.

How to find Your Master-slave match

Property Market: which property goes best with which Owner?

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Why is one person the property & slave and the other the Owner & Master?  This is probably the most important question of all.  It goes to the source of what we want, the decisions we make, and even the morals we live by. It’s also important because everybody needs to know whether they are making the right decision or not, and this is a big decision to make, and you can only really know you’re making the right decision if you know what makes you tick, i.e. what your needs are as a human being.

Of course, I’ve done all the work and found the best possible answer, which I’ll reveal here. All part of the service :)I’ll cut to the chase, then explain it in detail: this is how we experience and attain happiness. And happiness is what drives humanity, including our morals.  How we all go about achieving happiness is what makes us different.

Happiness

In a vanilla equal relationship, the partners are happiest when equally serving each other’s needs. When they don’t, they argue, and so they work towards compromise. If they continue down a path of no compromise, and continue to fail to address each other’s needs and not make each other happy, the relationship stands a good chance of breaking down. Try dominating or submitting to someone who gets happiness through quid pro quo equality.  Chances are they’ll feel guilty or neglected or even degraded, and end up with a confused or low opinion of you.  Abusive or selfish men are vilified, but it’s also possible, among many other reasons, that such men are not compatible with their partner.

The problem is that the equality-seekers are the vast majority. Society evolves in the direction of its majority. It’s a slow process because of the flaws of how societies are organised. But as many dictators have found out, you can’t keep all the people penned in all the time. Eventually most of society moves towards the centre. Those of us on the extremes or extremities, those of us not looking for equality in our home lives, are often misunderstood by the majority and we’re left thinking we’re bad for wanting something different. However, as I’ll explain, equality is not the only way to attain happiness for both partners.

Introducing The Power Seekers

We call them Masters in BDSM for largely fetish reasons from a throwback to a bygone era, but actually any power seeker in their personal relationships will do. I’ve had a few long-term relationships with dominant men who weren’t remotely into fetish or BDSM.  A lot of Power Seekers or Masters are dominant and controlling because they want to avoid the pitfalls of compromise and argument; these don’t make them happy, and they certainly want to avoid the least happiest state of all: complete break down of their relationship and losing what they love.

So they adopt a possessive, controlling dominance over their possessions and what they love. By controlling it and making decisions for it, the theory is that they’ll hold on to it for as long as they can or want. In fact, some more extreme Masters even make comparisons between their slave and their car: “if the car can’t up and leave when it wants and I own the car, why should My slave be able to?”

A Master is happy when He gets His way, when His needs, desires, and whims are met. It gives Him a sense of stability that what He has is actually His and not fleeting and ready to fly to the next coop.  The faster and better a slave can provide that stability and prove it by giving the Master what He wants, the happier the Master.That’s the theory. Of course the practice for many is different, but understanding why some of us want and need to be Masters and slaves, gives us a better chance for the theory to work and for us to find someone compatible with our aims and goals towards happiness.

So what’s in it for the TPE slave?  The short answer is nothing, but once I’ve explained the slave inclination, it should make sense. A more accurate question to ask is “how can the slave be happy being controlled, owned, and overpowered by a Master or  power seeker?”:

Introducing the selfless vicarious-pleasure slave

Some slaves (and boy are they rare) experience pleasure vicariously, and it is vicarious pleasure that makes them happy, content, and fulfilled. Before you Google “vicarious pleasure”, it means these slaves experience pleasure through the feelings of another person, and that person in the BDSM world is often called the Master. Vicarious pleasure is what makes these slaves tick.  It’s as automatic a consequence as “a happy Master results in a happy slave”.

These slaves are to various degrees selfless (some are even totally selfless or want to be) because selflessness is often a sure way to experience vicarious pleasure (provided it isn’t abused by the recipient of the selflessness – this is where gratitude comes from, not to mention reciprocity – and some Masters get it horribly wrong when they abuse the wrong aspect of the service they receive but they’re beyond the scope of this post).

Some people who work in certain jobs such as a restaurant as a waiter get job satisfaction out of making others happy by ensuring the customers have a pleasant meal and a good time. It certainly makes their job easier. Good teachers put in extra hours of work to try to be the best teacher they can because they get job satisfaction out of educating others, helping others achieve their goals and make something of their lives.

A vicarious-pleasure slave is like that but on a much deeper, more emotional and loving level. They don’t need to be all giving and selfless at work, but they do need to experience and express selflessness at home.

In some ways, especially if it involves domestic chores/servitude, it has parallels to a loving mother caring for her children. Gay men didn’t evolve to have kids through heterosexual relationship means, but who’s to say some of us didn’t evolve to take care of other more dominant Men instead?  More about the Slave Gene here.It follows that if it’s the Master getting what He wants that makes the slave happy then it often doesn’t matter what it is that the selfless slave has to do. If doing the cleaning, laundry and ironing is what the Master wants and would make Him happy, the slave will seize on this as an opportunity to be selfless.The mechanism is:

Selfless slave => Useful slave => X done by slave => happy Master => happy slave.

Where X is any task that will make the Master happy, pleased, pleasured or freed up.

And happy days are here again because the two needs balance each other out, both are happy. To paraphrase an old saying: “those I have served, have served me”.  The Master and slave are serving each other’s needs.  And what does having your needs met make you?

Happy.

However, it’s not all “up above the streets and houses, rainbow flying high”. To complicate matters yet further, some Doms/Masters can’t handle such selflessness and don’t want it. It’s important to understand that not every Master is looking for the same thing. For most I suspect it’s a question of degree, which is why slaves have evolved to come in all shapes and sizes and degrees of submissiveness. There are also other kinds of slaves, and a whole class of subs, who have other roots to happiness.

There’s no “one size fits all” slave. Sounds obvious, but if I had a penny for every time I had to say that…

A slave knowing his emotional limitations, what makes him tick, what degrees of submission he’s capable of, and likewise, a Master knowing what degree of submission He wants out of a slave, will make it easier to find compatibility.  Water finds its own level.

The other aspect to bear in mind, and this applies to both Masters and slaves, is that none of this is set in stone.  Some Masters want a concrete agreement by the end of the week or you’re a time-waster, or worse, “not a real slave” (I love defensive Masters, they always make me chuckle). Some slaves want a Master who hardens with time or at least doesn’t let up on being the sole authority figure, when some Masters tend to relax more once a loving Master/slave relationship is in place. The problem with these kinds of Master and slave is that feelings and emotions are not tablets of stone you  carry down from a mountain. Our inner selves are not monoliths. Our feelings fluctuate so there needs to be some accounting for this.

Of course the more demanding, selfish and dominant the Master and the more selfless, vicarious and submissive the slave, the less they will probably deviate from their true calling, and the more compatible they’ll be, but as I’ve said such slaves are incredibly rare.  The majority of human beings live on a spectrum of emotions, feelings and needs and we should learn to go with the grain, not against it, if happiness is what we’re after.

Finally, the last thing we need to learn to be happy is to appreciate what we have and that was phrased best by the Greek philosopher Epicurus:

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”

So you’ve read about matching happiness, now go get yourself some and let me know how it goes 🙂

 

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The one question Male property must ask prospective Owners

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“For many arecalled, but few are chosen” – Matthew 22:14

Many call themselves Dom or Master because they have a dominant inclination sexually or even in every day life.What The Manual To Life, Death, And AnythingBeyond doesn’t tell us though is that that’s the easy part. That’s thepart that comes naturally.

What’s more difficult is to be able to muster the maturity and responsibility required tobe a Dom or a Master in practice. This side to being a Dom or Master seems tobe severely lacking unfortunately (allowing for the few good Masters outthere).

It’s not the factthat men have a difficult time growing up that is all that surprising. What issurprising though is how many struggle with it where a slave is concerned whenwhat is required is not all that difficult, and surely the benefits far outweighthe taxing nature of having to be a grown up man and not a little boy anymore.What do men do when they have a wife and kids to feed and protect? Would theyspend x-number of years trying to mature enough to rise to the responsibility?Sure, there are many men who completely fail at the task, but shouldn’t aMaster be wise enough to learn from such examples and realise that beingequally immature or irresponsible isn’t likely to be something that’s going toend well?

And how difficultcan it be to own an adult slave? The slave is not a child that can’t feed orfend for itself. The slave is likely to have worked before and been through anentire education system. Being a slave owner isn’t likely to require round theclock care; it’s more likely to involve directing the slave for the bettermentof both parties.

Considering the fargreater responsibility in nurturing kids, is it just somewhat bizarre thatthere are people out there calling themselves Doms and Masters because theyhave an inclination but can’t handle the responsibility involved?

So the question every slave must ask every Master is simple: What do You have that enables Youto own a slave for real? You’ll be amazed at the answers you get. Truly amazed.You’ll very quickly be able to sort the men from the boys and if your experienceis anything like mine, it won’t always be age related.

There’s somethingabout being a responsible parent that enables many to mature, not in allthings, but enough to bring up some well-rounded kids into the world. I’m lessconfident about the maturity and responsibility of those who don’t go throughthat process, but it’s not out of reach. All it takes is a bit of growing up.So if You’re a Master wanting to own a slave, please make sure Your balls havedropped first.

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The Qualities of a Master

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These are some of the dominant qualities i’ve experienced from Masters who want total control and ownership. Note this is my experience and of course the list will be incomplete or focus on things others might not like. It’s also possible that I’ve noticed them because they’re the qualities I like in a Master. I’m sure it’s a list that will grow over time, but it’s also worth noting that a Master is not all these things all the time with everybody: it’s a question of degree and environment.These qualities, however, do exist and i’ve found a Master needs an outlet for them. The more a Master is able to dominate, the more He’s able to show these qualities.

Demanding, expectant, sometimes/often impatient – a Master wants and expects to be obeyed and the sooner the better. In a Master/slave relationship, where the slave serves to make the Master’s life more pleasant and comfortable, a Master can’t relax, can’t fully enjoy His property if He has no confidence in whether His orders and wishes are going to be obeyed and in within the time frame set. This leads to a Master being:

Possessive and controlling – this taps into the ownership function of having someone submit. If a Master views His slave as His property, it follows that He can often be possessive over His possessions. As a slave this often acts as a feedback loop, knowing a Master wants to own and control His property and possession. This then leads onto:

Decisive – I’ve often said the Master is the one who makes the decisions, calls the shots. In many BDSM relationships and for various reasons that can often be the slave. In a TPE agreement, the emphasis is really on the Master being the sole decision-maker. I’m not talking about the basic day to day decisions, but a TPE slave’s decisions are delegated ones within the Master’s larger more important decisions.

In its most basic form: Master and slave go to the cinema together and they each choose two different movies they want to see. Unless the Master is happy for the slave to go off on his own, or unless the slave is allowed to suggest and persuade the Master otherwise, then the Master’s decision/preference overrides the slave’s and they go see the Master’s choice. This trickles down into any number of scenarios: what the slave wears, where the slave sleeps, what the slave can and can’t say, etc. This then allows the Master to become:

Self-interested but not self-serving – not self-serving because a Master has a slave to serve Him obviously 😉 But one consequence of a sole decision-maker is that His preferences and ideas can and do override and replace the slave’s. This is where the slave’s most important quality comes into its own: selflessness. As I’ve said on my blog before, the meeting of Master and slave in TPE is often a case of opposites attract. The servant and the served. The Dom and the sub. The Ruler and the subject. Used responsibly this can be very productive. Just as dividing up work among men and women helped human beings survive and evolve against some of the harshest conditions, dividing up roles, chores and duties in TPE can have a similar effect. The slave frees up the Master who can focus on His goals and the benefits of which are partly trickled down to the slave, ensuring the slave survives as well. For more on this hunter/gather aspect of owning a slave, see my earlier blog post: The Slave Gene. To use this power to a productive effect, a Master has another quality:

Responsible and caring – a Master/slave agreement and especially a TPE relationship is a form of team work where the slave does a disproportionate amount of the work, at least in the home in the form of chores. The slave suppresses his ego and desires and preferences in favour of the Master’s. This makes the slave quite a useful and devoted companion and tool. It follows that such a slave can become rather indispensable. Today I learned of a straight male slave whose dominatrix wife wanted to sleep with other men but didn’t want to give up her slave; she had become so used to having her needs met in detail that she didnt want to get rid of her slave. It follows, at least in my experience, that such a fruition can only come about if the Master is responsible for and takes care of His property.

Another quality I haven’t worked into the above is firm and strict. This depends on the willingness of the slave to meet the above and on how much the Master wants to express the above when He enjoys His power over His possessions.

Some slaves need very little persuasion or punishment because their raison d’etre is selflessness, servitude, and egoless sacrifice. They will often talk about being naturally obedient. Others focus on the power aspect of not having a choice or say, of being forced and made to serve. They’ll often submit to someone stronger, bigger, older, etc.

Compatibility in a Master/slave agreement or relationship is, in my experience, even more important than in a vanilla relationship. In a vanilla relationship there is time apart, counselling, and friend networks where the relationship is just a part of the norm, and most importantly in a vanilla relationship there is equality, an airing of each view point from both sides (arguments often serve this very purpose).

Each TPE Master/slave relationship or agreement can be so specific to the two or more parties to it that such support, such cultural backdrop can often not exist or be possible. This is why communication is such a vital skill and tool, it is overall the most important. A slave may not be allowed to openly express opposition but I would highly recommend the slave be allowed to keep an online diary of all he thinks and feels, which only the Master is privy to. Blogger allows you to have private account-only access to a blog, and Tumblr allows you to password protect a diary/blog that only the Master then knows.

Masters often talk about owning the slave’s mind as well as the body so this is a good way to get access to the slave’s deepest thoughts and feelings.

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The daily degradation of Live-in Male property

Link: http://j.mp/wp-degradation

Imagine having no real say in anything anymore. Imagine not being the key decision-maker in your life and imagine every single minute of every day being told what to wear, where to go, what to do and how with no rules being set in stone so as to comply with the demands of absolute power. Imagine having to meet someone’s expectations and standards all the time and being punished/degraded for failing to meet them.Independence, self-determination and even ego and fate might become meaningless to such a slave. It would require probably a major life-changing almost permanent ego bypass.I can’t help imagining that this would take its toll over time, which is why so many can’t make the cross-over from freedom into full-time live-in consenting slavery. Or as the Bible puts it: “many are called, few are chosen”.Some might find that done daily, this is degrading. Out of those some will thrive on such daily degradation and others might crack under it, not able to cope, being too much, too often.

Out of those who thrive on it, they may get fulfilment out of the daily degradation and only really find it degrading because they still remember a time when they were their own master and now they’re property.

As always when we talk about an extreme it’s a good idea to temper it somewhat. My advice to any slaves who might stumble upon what I’ve posted here is to go into it only with a Master who cares about His property. The daily grind of being owned property and a full-time slave doesn’t have to be destructive (though I recognise for some slaves that’s what they want). Whichever way, as long as it’s fulfilling, it’s all good.

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Breath Control: When trust makes little difference to the outcome

Link: http://j.mp/breathcontrol

Trust is a wonderful thing but sometimes trust makes little difference to whether you survive an activity or not because the risks are often beyond the control of the person you trust. One activity that causes a significant number of deaths among the BDSM community is Breath Control (BC).  Take the case of Adrian Exley as just one among many examples. 

People say BC is ok with people you trust, however the fact is those medically trained to resuscitate people say there’s no way to tell when someone goes into cardiac arrest without proper equipment and this can happen in less than a minute, and there’s no guaranteed way to bring someone back to life when you have seconds to resuscitate them even with the proper equipment and drugs.  If that’s the case what good is trust to you then?

It’s certainly something to think about and investigate further. The article below goes into some detail to explain all that could go wrong that makes BC one of the most dangerous and deadly activities:

The Medical Realities of Breath Control Play

By Jay Wiseman, 1997, GreeneryPress.com

For some time now, I have felt that the practices of suffocation and/or strangulation done in an erotic context (generically known as breath control play; more properly known as asphyxiophilia) were in fact far more dangerous than they are generally perceived to be.

As a person with years of medical education and experience, I know of no way whatsoever that either suffocation or strangulation can be done in a way that does not intrinsically put the recipient at risk of cardiac arrest. (There are also numerous additional risks; more on them later.) 

Furthermore, and my *biggest* concern, I know of no reliable way to determine when such a cardiac arrest has become imminent.

Often the first detectable sign that an arrest is approaching is the arrest itself. Furthermore, if the recipient does arrest, the probability of resuscitating them, even with optimal CPR, is distinctly small. Thus the recipient is dead and their partner, if any, is in a very perilous legal situation. (The authorities could consider such deaths first-degree murders until proven otherwise, with the burden of such proof being on the defendant). There are also the real and major concerns of the surviving partner’s own life-long remorse to having caused such a death, and the trauma to the friends and family members of both parties.

Some breath control fans say that what they do is acceptably safe because they do not take what they do up to the point of unconsciousness. I find this statement worrisome for two reasons:

(1) You can’t really know when a person is about to go unconscious until they actually do so, thus it’s extremely difficult to know where the actual point of unconsciousness is until you actually reach it.

(2) More importantly, unconsciousness is a *symptom*, not a condition in and of itself. It has numerous underlying causes ranging from simple fainting to cardiac arrest, and which of these will cause the unconsciousness cannot be known in advance.

I have discussed my concerns regarding breath control with well over a dozen SM-positive physicians, and with numerous other SM-positive health professionals, and all share my concerns. We have discussed how breath control might be done in a way that is not life-threatening, and come up blank. We have discussed how the risk might be significantly reduced, and come up blank. We have discussed how it might be determined that an arrest is imminent, and come up blank.

Indeed, so far not one (repeat, not one) single physician, nurse, paramedic, chiropractor, physiologist, or other person with substantial training in how a human body works has been willing to step forth and teach a form of breath control play that they are willing to assert is acceptably safe — i.e., does not put the recipient at imminent, unpredictable risk of dying. I believe this fact makes a major statement.

Other “edge play” topics such as suspension bondage, electricity play, cutting, piercing, branding, enemas, water sports, and scat play can and have been taught with reasonable safety, but not breath control play. Indeed, it seems that the more somebody knows about how a human body works, the more likely they are to caution people about how dangerous breath control is, and about how little can be done to reduce the degree of risk. 

In many ways, oxygen is to the human body, and particularly to the heart and brain, what oil is to a car’s engine. Indeed, there’s a medical adage that goes “hypoxia (becoming dangerously low on oxygen) not only stops the motor, but also wrecks the engine.” Therefore, asking how one can play safely with breath control is very similar to asking how one can drive a car safely while draining it of oil.

Some people tell the “mechanics” something like, “Well, I’m going to drain my car of oil anyway, and I’m not going to keep track of how low the oil level is getting while I’m driving my car, so tell me how to do this with as much safety as possible.” (They may even add someting like “Hey, I always shut the engine off before it catches fire.”) They then get frustrated when the mechanics scratch their heads and say that they don’t know. They may even label such mechanics as “anti-education.”

A bit about my background may help explain my concerns. I was an ambulance crewman for over eight years. I attended medical school for three years, and passed my four-year boards, (then ran out of money). I am a former member of the American Academy of Family Physicians and a former American Heart Association instructor in Advanced Cardiac Life Support. I have an extensive martial arts background that includes a first-degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do. My martial arts training included several months of judo that involved both my choking and being choked.

I have been an instructor in first aid, CPR, and various advanced emergency care techniques for over sixteen years. My students have included physicians, nurses, paramedics, police officers, fire fighters, wilderness emergency personnel, martial artists, and large numbers of ordinary citizens. I currently offer both basic and advanced first aid and CPR training to the SM community.

During my ambulance days, I responded to at least one call involving the death of a young teenage boy who died from autoerotic strangulation, and to several other calls where this was suspected but could not be confirmed. (Family members often “sanitize” such scenes before calling 911.) Additionally, I personally know two members of my local SM community who went to prison after their partners died during breath control play.

The primary danger of suffocation play is that it is not a condition that gets worse over time (regarding the heart, anyway, it does get worse over time regarding the brain). Rather, what happens is that the more the play is prolonged, the greater the odds that a cardiac arrest will occur. Sometimes even one minute of suffocation can cause this; sometimes even less.

Quick pathophysiology lesson # 1: When the heart gets low on oxygen, it starts to fire off “extra” pacemaker sites. These usually appear in the ventricles and are thus called premature ventricular contractions — PVC’s for short. If a PVC happens to fire off during the electrical repolarization phase of cardiac contraction (the dreaded “PVC on T” phenomenon, also sometimes called “R on T”) it can kick the heart over into ventricular fibrillation — a form of cardiac arrest. The lower the heart gets on oxygen, the more PVC’s it generates, and the more vulnerable to their effect it becomes, thus hypoxia increases both the probability of a PVC-on-T occurring and of its causing a cardiac arrest.

When this will happen to a particular person in a particular session is simply not predictable. This is exactly where most of the medical people I have discussed this topic with “hit the wall.” Virtually all medical folks know that PVC’s are both life-threating and hard to detect unless the patient is hooked to a cardiac monitor. When medical folks discuss breath control play, the question quickly becomes: How can you tell when they start throwing PVC’s? The answer is: You basically can’t.

Quick pathophysiology lesson # 2: When breathing is restricted, the body cannot eliminate carbon dioxide as it should, and the amount of carbon dioxide in the blood increases. Carbon dioxide (CO2) and water (H2O) exist in equilibrium with what’s called carbonic acid (H2CO3) in a reaction catalyzed by an enzyme called carbonic anhydrase.

Thus: CO2 + H2O becomes H2CO3

A molecule of carbonic acid dissociates on its own into a molecule of what’s called bicarbonate (HCO3-) and an (acidic) hydrogen ion. (H+)

Thus: H2CO3 becomes HCO3- and H+

Thus the overall pattern is:
H2O + CO2 becomes H2CO3 becomes HCO3- + H+

Therefore, if breathing is restricted, CO2 builds up and the reaction shifts to the right in an attempt to balance things out, ultimately making the blood more acidic and thus decreasing its pH. This is called respiratory acidosis. (If the patient hyperventilates, they “blow off CO2” and the reaction shifts to the left, thus increasing the pH. This is called respiratory alkalosis, and has its own dangers.)

Quick pathophysiology lesson # 3:

Again, if breathing is restricted, not only does carbon dioxide have a hard time getting out, but oxygen also has a hard time getting in. A molecule of glucose (C6H12O6) breaks down within the cell by a process called glycolysis into two molecules of pyruvate, thus creating a small amount of ATP for the body to use as energy. Under normal circumstances, pyruvate quickly combines with oxygen to produce a much larger amount of ATP. However, if there’s not enough oxygen to properly metabolize the pyruvate, it is converted into lactic acid and produces one form of what’s called a metabolic acidosis.

As you can see, either a build-up in the blood of carbon dioxide or a decrease in the blood of oxygen will cause the pH of the blood to fall. If both occur at the same time, as they do in cases of suffocation, the pH of the blood will plummet to life-threatening levels within a very few minutes. The pH of normal human blood is in the 7.35 to 7.45 range (slightly alkaline). A pH falling to 6.9 (or raising to 7.8) is “incompatible with life.” 

Past experience, either with others or with that same person, is not particularly useful. Carefully watching their level of consciousness, skin color, and pulse rate is of only limited value. Even hooking the bottom up to both a pulse oximeter and a cardiac monitor (assuming you had either piece of equipment, and they’re not cheap) would be of only limited additional value.

While an experienced clinician can sometimes detect PVC’s by feeling the patient’s pulse, in reality the only reliable way to detect them is to hook the patient up to a cardiac monitor. The problem is that each PVC is potentially lethal, particularly if the heart is low on oxygen. Even if you “ease up” on the bottom immediately, there’s no telling when the PVC’s will stop. They could stop almost at once, or they could continue for hours.

In addition to the primary danger of cardiac arrest, there is good evidence to document that there is a very real risk of cumulative brain damage if the practice is repeated often enough. In particular, laboratory studies of repeated brief interruption of blood flow to the brains of animals and studies of people with what’s called “sleep apnea syndrome” (in which they stop breathing for up to two minutes while sleeping) document that cumulative brain damage does occur in such cases.

There are many documented additional dangers. These include, but are _not_ limited to: rupture of the windpipe, fracture of the larynx, damage to the blood vessels in the neck, dislodging a fatty plaque in a neck artery which then travels to the brain and causes a stroke, damage to the cervical spine, seizures, airway obstruction by the tongue, and aspiration of vomitus. Additionally, there are documented cases in which the recipient appeared to fully recover but was found dead several hours later.

The American Psychiatric Association estimates a death rate of one person per year per million of population — thus about 250 deaths last year in the U.S. Law enforcement estimates go as much as four times higher. Most such deaths occur during solo play, however there are many documented cases of deaths that occurred during play with a partner. It should be noted that the presence of a partner does nothing to limit the primary danger, and does little or nothing to limit most of the secondary dangers.

Some people teach that choking can be safely done if pressure on the windpipe is avoided. Their belief is that pressing on the arteries leading to the brain while avoiding pressure on the windpipe can safely cause unconsciousness. The reality, unfortunately, is that pressing on the carotid arteries, _exactly_ as they recommend, presses on baroreceptors known as the carotid sinus bodies. These bodies then cause vasodilation in the brain, thus there is not enough blood to perfuse the brain and the recipient loses consciousness. However, that’s not the whole story.

Unfortunately, a message is also sent to the main pacemaker of the heart, via the vagus nerve, to decrease the rate and force of the heartbeat. Most of the time, under strong vagal influence, the rate and force of the heartbeat decreases by one third. However, every now and then, the rate and force decreases to zero and the bottom “flatlines” into asystole — another, and more difficult to treat, form of cardiac arrest. There is no way to tell whether or not this will happen in any particular instance, or how quickly. There are many documented cases of as little as five seconds of choking causing a vagal-outflow-induced cardiac arrest.

For the reason cited above, many police departments have now either entirely banned the use of choke holds or have reclassified them as a form of deadly force. Indeed, a local CHP officer recently had a $250,000 judgment brought against him after a nonviolent suspect died while being choked by him.

Finally, as a CPR instructor myself, I want to caution that knowing CPR does little to make the risk of death from breath control play significantly smaller. While CPR can and should be done, understand that the probability of success is likely to be less than 10%.

I’m not going to state that breath control is something that nobody should ever do under any circumstances. I have no problem with informed, freely consenting people taking any degree of risk they wish. I am going to state that there is a great deal of ignorance regarding what actually happens to a body when it’s suffocated or strangled, and that the actual degree of risk associated with these practices is far greater than most people believe.

I have noticed that, when people are educated regarding the severity and unpredictability of the risks, fewer and fewer choose to play in this area, and those who do continue tend to play less often. I also notice that, because of its severe and unpredictable risks, more and more SM party-givers are banning any form of breath control play at their events.

If you’d like to look into this matter further, here are some references to get you started:
“Emergency Care in the Streets” by Caroline (I recommend starting here)
“Medical Physiology” by Guyton
“The Pathologic Basis of Disease” by Robbins
“Textbook of Advanced Cardiac Life Support” by American Heart Association
“The Physiology Coloring Book” by Kapit, Macey, and Meisami
“Forensic Pathology” by DeMaio and Demaio
“Melloni’s Illustrated Medical Dictionary” by Dox, Melloni, and Eisner
“Autoerotic Fatalities” by Hazelwood

People with questions or comments can contact me at the GreeneryPress website or write to me at Greenery Press, 3739 Balboa #195, San Francisco, CA 94121.

Regards,

Jay Wiseman

What Master and slave really mean in TPE Ownership

slave means property, subject, servant, tool. The slave as Male property consents to being owned by a Dictator and Owner, and wants to be treated as property. He consents to being ruled over and obediently and subserviently subjugated to a life of selfless servitude. He understands that as property he is subject to His Owner’s will and mood and not the other way around (unless there are psychological limitations).

Key skill: selflessness.

Master means Owner, Dictator, Ruler, Law-giver, Decision-maker over all His property. He may decide to be treated as a King, an Emperor and worshipped as a God, but essentially the more He owns His property outright, the more He has ultimate power to decide what and when and how.

Key skill: decision-making.

There are of course natural limits. For instance, a Master as Owner in wielding His absolute power is responsible for His property’s well-being. Likewise, a slave even as owned property should still retain his survival instinct. Nobody’s advocating submitting to a caricature of Moamar Gadaffi. This is why finding a slave who truly understands his true calling in life and is willing to enact it and pairing such property with an Owner who understands His responsibility for His property is vital to a successful outcome.

Total in TPE doesn’t have to mean the Master and slave go thru every possible item on the entire BDSM menu and spectrum. It’s not a competition or a race to fetish heaven. Instead ‘total’ refers to the automatic and autocratic nature of a dynamic of command followed by obedience, of law followed by compliance.

The dynamic itself can be intoxicating: the realisation that the slave wants and needs to be treated as property, even objectified in the process, that the Master wants to own Male property and expects to be obeyed and worshipped for it. Then there are the grey areas that arise in pushing a slave to or past his limits, the grey areas between yes and no…

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How to talk to Male property

Deciding how You’ll talk to Your property is something a lot of Owners like about owning Male property but because of social conventions, such Owners can, at least at first, feel more restrained than They need to be. This is something that should be overcome because often what is needed by those of us who identify as Your property is for You to be:

Direct and to the point.

If You’re not submissive and don’t identify as property, then chances are You probably don’t know how Your property thinks, how the submissive brain works, and quite what it needs in order to function efficiently.

As a rule of thumb: Don’t leave things to chance. Don’t talk in vague general terms. Say exactly what You mean. If You’re the kind of Owner who thinks Your property is unequal, inferior and needs to live life according to Your rules and whims, then don’t assume such a dependent slave is going to understand exactly what You mean by whatever generic term You’re using.

This should happen quite naturally once You own Your property and especially if Your property lives with You, but, largely due to coyness, fear of rejection/jugdement, and social convention, some Owners feel restricted.  Fortunately, one of the benefits of owning property is that You don’t have to follow such conventions or worry about rejection or judgement. You are judge and jury over Your estate and all Your property within it, and You make the rules.

Of course, words can wound and often leave their mark long after any bruises have cleared up so it’s important to bear this in mind as well.

I’ll update this with examples later.

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German BDSM-Test now in English

Link: http://j.mp/bdsmtest

This is one of the best BDSM tests I’ve seen online – and you get a lovely series of graphs with the results to put on all your profiles and accidentally send to all your work colleagues.

The bad news for most people is that the test is only available in German.

The good news is I translated it years ago for a Master and thanks to online storage found it again today.  So I retook the test to see what has changed (i’ve become more masochistic – yikes).  Then it hit me 😉 why not make the translation available on my blog for non-German speakers.

So are you sitting (un)comfortably?

Achtung! Fertig! Los!!!!!  (Ready! Set! Go!!!!)
The wesbite is:

http://BDSM-Test.com

Don’t panic!!  It’s only the language of BDSM 🙂

Top Right Box:

Choose a Pseudo (Dein Pseudo = your nickname, this will appear on the graphs) and enter your email address (Deine EMail). They then send you an email and you have to click the first link to continue the registration.

Registration details:

German	English
Pseudo	Nickname
Alter	Age
PLZ	Post code (1 0 1 will put you in north-west Berlin)
Bitte die ersten 3 Ziffer!	The first 3 digits, please!
Geschlecht	gender
Schulabschluss	education (Abitur is A-level, SAT)
Familienstand	Marital status
Geschlecht des Wunschpartners	gender of the partner you’re seeking
Erfahrung mit SM	experience with S&M
Weiter	Next/onwards

Click on “Hier gehts zu den Fragen” (click here for the questions) to start the test. A small window will then pop up:

Which means:

 

 

 

 

 

Click on “Zu den Fragen” ( = To the questions).

Now unfortunately, the answers to the questions appear in random order so you have to match them to my translation, which is as follows, i’ve highlighted the key words to remember:

German	English
trifft auf keinen Fall zu	Doesn’t apply to me at all
trifft kaum zu	Hardly applies to me
trifft etwas zu	Somewhat applies to me
trifft weitgehend zu	Applies to a large extent
trifft vollkommen zu	Applies totally, fuck yeah! :p

There’s a line at the top of the test that says:

Hinweis: Wenn du eine derartige Fantasie noch nicht hattest, dann wähle bitte “Trifft auf keinen Fall zu”

which means:

Please Note: if you haven’t had such a fantasy yet, then choose “trifft auf keinen Fall zu” (doesn’t apply to me at all).

Now (finally) to the test itself:

The fantasy/idea excites me…
Frage 1:  … when I give notice of pain, torture and humiliation to my partner

Frage 2: … when i suffer humiliation via my Partner

Frage 3:  … when I feel my partner’s submission and devotion

Frage 4:  … when I sense my partner’s fear and hear his cries.

Frage 5: … when my Partner inflicts pain that I can only just bear.

Frage 6: … when I get my partner to do things that he wouldn’t normally do or like.

Frage 7: … when my partner has my body at his disposal.

Frage 8:  … when I see the marks of my SM-treatment left on my partner (pressure points from clamps, welts from torture, etc.)

Frage 9: … when my partner submits to me involuntarily.

Frage 10: … when i’m punished for my mistakes/misconduct.

Frage 11: … when I don’t know which “treatments” I’m to endure.

Frage 12:  … when my partner has to suffer pain during sex or during a session

Frage 13:  … When, through suffering pain, my orgasm is protracted.

Frage 14:  … when my partner forbids me to orgasm.

Frage 15:  … when I torture my partner up to his limits.

Frage 16:  … when I have use of my partner’s body and it’s at my disposal.

Frage 17:  … when I can’t defend myself against the pain i’m experiencing.

Frage 18:  … when I can see that my partner has surrendered to me.

Frage 19: … when I, as torturer, punish others.

Frage 20:  … when I’m forced to submit to my partner completely.

Frage 21: … when my partner announces in which way he’s going to use me.

Frage 22: … when my partner dishes out orders to me.

Frage 23: … when i’m forced under orders to postpone my orgasm (cum-denial)

Frage 24: … when I use my partner as a sextoy.

Frage 25: … when I buy a slave at a slave market.

Frage 26: … when i’m kept helpless during sex with my partner.

Frage 27: … when my partner follows my orders with no objection.

Frage 28: … when pain reaches my limits.

Frage 29: … when my partner doesn’t carry out an order in order to be punished.

Frage 30: … when I, without experiencing a personal high, have to provide my
partner’s pleasure.

Frage 31: … when pain is inflicted to my sensitive areas.

Frage 32: … when I’m totally at my partner’s mercy and being
tortured/tormented/teased by him. (quälen  means a lot of things lol)

Frage 33: … when strangers torture/tease me.

Frage 34: … when I inflict pain on someone.

Frage 35: … when I’m forced to serve someone as their slave.

Frage 36: … when my partner doesn’t obey my order and I punish him for it.

Frage 37: … when I hear my partner moaning in pain or I can see the torment and
suffering on his face.

Frage 38: … when I hand over all responsibility for me to my partner.

Frage 39: … when I hit my partner in sensitive areas.

Frage 40: … when I use different things (such as clamps, wax, etc.) to add to my Partner’s pain.

Frage 41: … when i’m severely beaten/thrashed.

Frage 42: … when my body is at my partner’s disposal for his pleasure.

Frage 43: … when i’m forced to satisfy myself in front of my partner.

Frage 44: … when I tell my partner off for his disobedience and punish him for it.

Frage 45: … when I have to satisfy my partner with oral sex.

Frage 46: … when I subjugate myself to my partner voluntarily.

Frage 47: … when my partner brings me to limits that were unknown to me before.

Frage 48: … when my partner gives me the feeling of being completely at his mercy.

Frage 49: … when I put my partner in compromising positions/situations (e.g. no underwear in public, inserted Dildo, …)

Zusatzfragen  (Additional Questions)
These questions are used to better determine your inclination. Please answer these questions carefully.

Frage 1: SM has enriched my life!

Frage 2: Sometimes I wish I didn’t have SM-fantasies in my life.
(bisher noch nicht = not up to now)

Frage 3: Sometimes I worry that I go too far in my transformation to SM.

Frage 4: I sometimes fear that my implementation of SM could lead to harm/damage.

Frage 5: I think that in the practice of SM the danger of serious damage is fairly high.

Frage 6:  My sex life would be boring without SM!

Frage 7: What age were you when you first started having SM fantasies?
1 – 6        7 – 13        14 – 20        21 – 30        31 – 40        41 – 50      older than 50    still none at all

Frage 8: With regards my sexual inclinations I sometimes regret being different to “normal” people.

Frage 9: Several times I’ve tried to “switch off” my SM-fantasies.

Frage 10: I find it a problem that my SM-fantasies don’t fit in with my Values System.

Frage 11: My SM fantasies have gradually become more and more extreme / are becoming more and more extreme.

Frage 12: How often have you had an SM experience in the last 2 years?
None at all        a little         some up to now          often          very often

Frage 13: How often have you had an SM fantasy in the last 2 years?
None at all        a little        some up to now            often         very often

In the results section you’ll see this menu down the left-hand side. Verteilung(distribution) will show you your results in a pie chart adding up to 100%. The text says:

What is the relative distribution of a person’s inclinations/tendencies?

The BDSM-test determines the “absolute intensity of the 4 basic tendencies” of a person so can determine how much a person is sadistic, dominant, submissive, or masochistic.

This score however doesn’t constitute the “relative dispersion” of these inclinations of the person as a whole.

When you see the person as a whole, i.e. 100%, you see on this chart how the various tendencies distribute with respect to one another.

Begrifflichkeit means terminology or concepts and it gives quite good explanations for the terms dom, sub, etc.  The German in this section says:

Devote Neigung (Submissive inclination)
People with submissive tendencies/inclinations enjoy subjugating themselves and giving up control to another, becoming controlled/dominated and  directed by someone.

Dominante Neigung (Dominant inclination)
In contrast, people with dominant tendencies derive sexual pleasure and satisfaction out of the domination and control of another.

Sadistische Neigung (Sadistic inclination)
Sadistic inclinations are characterised by the fact that a person experiences sexual pleasure and satisfaction through inflicting pain and humiliation on another. The term goes back to the French writer Marquis de Sade.

Masochistische Neigung (Masochistic inclination)
The opposite of this is the masochistic tendency, which is characterised by how someone experiences sexual pleasure or satisfaction when pain is inflicted on him and/or he is humiliated.

Then it says:

ATTENTION: It should be noted that the tendencies covered here are only to be understood as preferences within a sexual partnership and generally have very little to do with the behaviour/practice in daily life.  So, for example, someone with strong sadistic preferences can by all means be loving and tender in normal human relationships. It should also be noted that very few people identify exclusively as people with just one type of SM tendency. Many love, for example, the interplay between dominant/sadistic and submissive/masochistic (Switchers).

So there!

Other things to note: if you want to change your password (Passwort) go to Einstellungen (Settings) on the menu, and to go back to your results go to Mein Ergebnis (my score – ergeben also means submissive, devoted, humble, or surrender  – told you it was the language of BDSM :p)

Percentage-change: From when I took the test a few years ago to the test I took today, the “devot” level has remained the same but the “masochist” percentage has increased – good news for some, i s’ppose :p